I watched a movie last night on Netflix called Trust. It was a really screwed up movie that is for sure. As a parent of an 11 year it becomes a lot scarier to let your children go out in the world. You want to protect them. You don't want anything to harm them and you will do anything and everything to keep harm away. The worst thing is that you can't. Unless you lock your kid in their room and never let them see the world, something will happen because life is just like that. It takes the good and the bad to mold people on who they are today. Its your job as a parent to prepare your kids for what to do when the worst comes their way so they themselves can figure out what to do with it.
This movie last night had me terrified and bawling all at the same time. A 14 year-old girl met a guy online that she thought was 16. He pursued her for over two months and some how convinced this poor girl that she was in love with him even after finding out his true age which was I think 35. She met up with him....had sex...then he disappeared. It took awhile for her to even figure out that she was actually taken advantage and raped. She thought she was in a relationship because that is how he made her feel. He had the power to over take this girl's mind to think that what has happened was choice, not rape and that they were in love. Its overall terrifying. Its sickening.
One thing though I want to hit on is how men have the capability to make us girls think that we are in a relationship. Think its love. Think it truly is meant to be and to be soul mates and then before we know it we are standing alone. They got to have sex and they are perfectly fine with moving on. You officially mean nothing. Its debilitating. You question yourself thinking what made you not good enough? What did you do wrong? You begin apologizing for things that you don't even understand just to have them back and all reality is that they don't. Guys will invest months into someone. Tell them the world. Hell even give them the world. Then disappear and shut you out like your a stranger on the street. I've been that girl. I'm sure many of you out there have been too.
Men know that all women want in someone is the world. To feel extra special To feel that all they need is just you to be happy. A woman's weakness is their heart. You get in it and you have her wrapped around your finger no matter how strong and independent she is. That is why love is so powerful. When its felt to be real, nothing else matters and nothing can change your mind or heart on what is right. Watching the movie and to actually see this little girl's reaction to the reality that what had happened to her was rape it was devastating to her. Reality broke her in a million pieces. (Very good actress by the way! )
I had a lot of realities hit me when I watched this movie. Past relationships that I thought was something really wasn't. Think maybe that is why I cried so much watching the ending because I know that shocking pain.
All I can say though at this point that I'm thankful that I do have the reality of real love. The man who kisses my forehead when he thinks I'm sleeping.....the one who goes out and starts my car when its freezing outside in his boxers to defrost it for me to go to work, the one who looks in my eyes and say how beautiful I am to him....my husband. It took a lot of relationships to figure out what is my perfect heaven of love. Even with a disruption to our marriage it still is love. Crazy...unmistakable love.
"Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces." ~Sigmund Freud
This movie last night had me terrified and bawling all at the same time. A 14 year-old girl met a guy online that she thought was 16. He pursued her for over two months and some how convinced this poor girl that she was in love with him even after finding out his true age which was I think 35. She met up with him....had sex...then he disappeared. It took awhile for her to even figure out that she was actually taken advantage and raped. She thought she was in a relationship because that is how he made her feel. He had the power to over take this girl's mind to think that what has happened was choice, not rape and that they were in love. Its overall terrifying. Its sickening.
One thing though I want to hit on is how men have the capability to make us girls think that we are in a relationship. Think its love. Think it truly is meant to be and to be soul mates and then before we know it we are standing alone. They got to have sex and they are perfectly fine with moving on. You officially mean nothing. Its debilitating. You question yourself thinking what made you not good enough? What did you do wrong? You begin apologizing for things that you don't even understand just to have them back and all reality is that they don't. Guys will invest months into someone. Tell them the world. Hell even give them the world. Then disappear and shut you out like your a stranger on the street. I've been that girl. I'm sure many of you out there have been too.
Men know that all women want in someone is the world. To feel extra special To feel that all they need is just you to be happy. A woman's weakness is their heart. You get in it and you have her wrapped around your finger no matter how strong and independent she is. That is why love is so powerful. When its felt to be real, nothing else matters and nothing can change your mind or heart on what is right. Watching the movie and to actually see this little girl's reaction to the reality that what had happened to her was rape it was devastating to her. Reality broke her in a million pieces. (Very good actress by the way! )
I had a lot of realities hit me when I watched this movie. Past relationships that I thought was something really wasn't. Think maybe that is why I cried so much watching the ending because I know that shocking pain.
All I can say though at this point that I'm thankful that I do have the reality of real love. The man who kisses my forehead when he thinks I'm sleeping.....the one who goes out and starts my car when its freezing outside in his boxers to defrost it for me to go to work, the one who looks in my eyes and say how beautiful I am to him....my husband. It took a lot of relationships to figure out what is my perfect heaven of love. Even with a disruption to our marriage it still is love. Crazy...unmistakable love.
"Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces." ~Sigmund Freud
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