Musical Keynote

Before I begin, THANK YOU my dear Facebook friends for providing me with the information that I needed to write this. There was a reason for your participation which you will see here in a second.
We all live our lives and doing the things that we do. Whether we end the day remembering everything we did or not, my guess is that if there was music playing that day you would know and remember that feeling or it may just imprinted something in you that will grow old with you.
Our music is up loud in our cars, we blare our music when we clean the house (Well, I do anyways), we party with friends with our favorite songs. You share your first dance with your husband at your wedding which will allow you to never forget that moment.
 Our ears are stimulated through our soul that without music one could never gain one of the greatest triggers for human sensors. Every thought about how our world would be and how we would be without it? Music allows the young enthusiast to connect, the old to reminisce, and the in bet-weens to feel a sense of freedom within. Music will forever be the universal language that connects us all. Music is a medium which we all understand. We all have our favorites and within the range of choice is the unique expression of oneness.
 I've said this before in past writings that when I do sit down and write, I listen to classical piano. Even in high school when I was studying; that was my choice. It stimulates me to be open minded with every key played. People always said classical music will stimulate your brain for more effective productivity. I don't listen to it for that reason, I just like it. I always like an additive bonus though!! Haha
Here is where you all come into play now. I asked what your favorite song was and why. I will share a few and then maybe explain to you why it is yours.
Someone wrote "The Sunshine Song". To me and that person, it means friendship. To me and my children, it means comfort and love. The same song that I love to sing and hear takes myself to different moments and different feelings all within the same song. Its short and sweet and gets to the point. My kids know that its their song and will forever be so.
Someone also threw out a Christina Perri song......First of all, she is an amazing writer and her voice is brilliant. I haven't heard a song yet that I do not like. A thousand years is found in I think the next twilight or just recent Twilight movie....either way its expression of love. How long you crave it and have waited for it. Sharing your whole soul and just waiting for the right response. Pure emotion. Whether your singing it yourself or just listening to it. I'm sure whomever this song means to you, your wrapped so much in the lyrics to the point where it is you and your life and your just waiting.
Others chose songs because of just simply how it states where they are in their life right now. It creates that existence for them. Other songs are reminders of good times and the season of the year. Its all about dictating those emotions and feelings and taking you to that place where you are in your heart and ears of course and feeling the words and the music. 
There are those songs though that we avoid. It reminds us of our mistakes, failures or pretty much something we have packed away in our memory that we never want to come out and for some reason that damn song plays and we are pissed and just want it to stop. Next thing you know, your breaking your iPod or stereo and ready to punch a wall, scream and cry all at the same time. All just because of a song.
I didn't share with you on Facebook like you did in regards to what my favorite song is and why so here I go. I'm going to share three actually. The first is The Dance from Garth Brooks. This song has been mine and my husbands song back even 14 years ago. If he is away and its on the radio he calls and sings to me. I will play it on our anniversary or after a fight so we can remember hey, we love each other. Another song I hold close is Wish you were here from Pink Floyd. This song stirs up multiple memories. It began of course back in day when I would be hanging out at the Roman house. Jordan, Amy, Andrew, Benji and Ruben would get out their guitars and sing. Since Jordan's passing, I remember those happy moments that we used to share even though I wish he was still here when I hear that song. I miss my friend. Now a song that just defines me. This is a tough one but we all have ways on how we separate where we are in our life right now. Luckily I can do that with one song. Well...at least with the song of the day anyways. A Voice within by Christina Aguilera. Favorite verse would be: " Like your oldest friend, just trust the voice within...Then you'll find the strength that will guide your way. You will learn to begin to trust the voice within." I write and vent about pretty much everything and sometimes struggle with it. Its hard to not be transparent when I just want to get it all out and then I will find myself knowing what I am feeling and not finding the words to match it.
So that is a little about me and a little about some of you. We find ourselves through music no matter who we are. We define ourselves with it and we praise the day with it. No matter who you are or whatever genre a song comes from, you connect with it that maybe you will be the only one that understands it. It doesn't matter because you may not be capable of pushing out certain emotions a song can do, but that is why you have that song isn't it?

Bitch Fest

I know your waiting for my music blog, but of course there has to be something else that has to deter me from writing something powerful to me just bitching.
As most of you have seen already on my Facebook, someone had the audacity to not only send a hurtful message anonymously through my business site, but now has messed with my Facebook postings.
Someone that makes fun at me...whatever. Do what you want. Be jealous or whatever you want to call it. I've worked so hard on changing myself since having FIVE children and why is it wrong for me to keep working on it???
One thing that has been most important to me is my freedom of expression. I write because its second nature. Its apart of me. Most of you seem to appreciate what I have to say and I'm grateful for that. Some of you may not even have ever read anything of what I write which is okay too. I write for me when it comes to this blog. On my other blog, I write for the readers. I may not be the best writer in the world but I do have a lot to say so this is the way I do it. Or you see tons of ramblings on Facebook.

Over the past week, I had to apologize for a status that worried a lot of people. People need to tend to remember that Facebook is a way to express yourself and sometimes things can be taken out of context. That night when I posted what I did, I felt the need to. Just for the moment. I do very much appreciate the concern but I have had probably the worst week, and especially that night to be of ever. I was awaken by a horrible embarrassing situation on top of everything else I was dealing with. I'm not going into detail of what happened, but because I posted three words at 4am, not only did my world change, but also the understanding of my family.

I have family now that wants nothing to do with my Facebook....which is fine. Delete away. I've been trying to filter my life but really haven't had the need to lately because things were going good. I've been happy. Now because of one night that I was too drunk to think to block certain individuals from seeing what I wrote, I will now forever pay for it. Its my doing. My screw-up. I do understand that.

Transparency is something I written about before. You can either share your whole world with everyone, or nothing at all. Me, there is pretty much 95% of the time you get the pure girl. The girl that cusses and flicks off the camera. The girl that will talk shit when she's pissed off. Its who I am. Those of you that can't except it than delete away or just unsubscribe from my updates. That way if your curious on my life then you don't have to see me in your news feed.

I don't want the drama but apparently people fill the need that when things are going good to push their way into a situation that they will never understand. It is what is and I can't change that.

So here I am venting away. I have people that apparently hate me for me and trying to take away things from me that well, guess what? It won't happen. I am me. Stay away from my face book if you don't like what you see. Can't accept me, then disappear. I'm working on building a business on top of building more muscle with an amazing company that I'm more than ecstatic to be apart of....which I will blog on my other blog about here soon.

So that is that. It is what it is. Family or friends....this is me. Take it or leave it.

Primary Keys: Communication, Honesty, and Sex

There are keys to every relationship and/or marriage that have to always be balanced to make sure a future is viable. Love doesn't cut anymore kids. Factors of communication is always the primary key. If you can't talk to one another about everything and anything then that leads to trust issues. If you don't trust one another then, then what? Live off of anti-depressants and hope things change?

I talk to my guy friends a lot. I can tell when they are down in the dumps so me, as awesome as I am...haha, will listen to their issues. Most of the time, I am listening to something that their girl should be listening to but they have been put in a position that they can't even trust their partner to even have that conversation so they are having it with me, searching for help.

Guys don't like it when a girl cries. Girls hate it when a man shuts down and walks away. Girls have a tendency to push buttons because they become inpatient when they are seeking resolution to whatever nonsense fight it was today that he isn't ready to talk about and the next thing you know, someone is on the couch or worse didn't come home that night.

My husband shuts down very quickly. He holds a lot in until he is pretty much ready to burst. Me, I burst right away so we are completely opposite. The things that we have managed to do after all these years is to actually learn our mannerisms when we fight and find that right time when we are both ready for resolution. Now that is the key. We don't fight and ignore. We don't fight and walk away forever. We talk it out. Piece by piece to the point of when we are finally on the same page. Even have 14 years, I will learn something new about my husband because I pay attention. Finally he is picking that up on my end to.

One of my guy friends has issues with his girl. She insists that if they have a relationship that there should be no need for porn, strip clubs, or masturbating. I'm not surprised because I know a lot of girls like this. Well anyways, that isn't just the key to it all. She insisted these rules, but then denies him of sex. Now he feels when he sneaks away to take care of himself that he is being bad and ruining his relationship. So what is the problem here? So....because there are always two sides to everything I talk with his girl to find out whats going on. She explained to me her rules. Which are fine for her...whatever, but her reason for not being intimate with her man was because she found a dirty magazine in his bathroom. So she is punishing him. Sounds kinda fucked up to me.

Hahaha...sorry, I just realized that I'm actually playing therapist here. Sorry..anyways so I sat both of them down and made some points clear. I may disagree with the whole masturbating, porn, hell even strip clubs, but that is just me. I made her realize that if you find a man that will live up to your rules then you have a pretty good one. People make mistakes but in this case she was denying him sexual needs before he finally broke down and took care of himself.

Sex is in our nature people. Whether its just sex, a good fucking, or making love or masturbating, we all do it because its what we do. We all have needs. They have to be met or your going to lose one of the most important key factors to HOLD a relationship. For guys it is a great chance for them to cheat. Its not because of their heart its because of that insane amount of blood flow and the lack of intimacy that they need. If there is a problem, don't punish someone that you love. Talk to them. Talk it all out. Don't hold back on anything. You can't be scared to say something to the person you love. If they are upset they will either learn to understand your perspective or they just won't.

So COMMUNICATE!!!!!! Be HONEST!!!! Don't fear your partner. A relationship is a partnership so how are you going to make it work if only one person is making the rules??

Side note though for the girls. As I said up there, I don't have a problem with porn, magazines and strip clubs. How do you think your man learns all his damn moves to begin with?? Don't you want to experience something new and exciting? Plus, a guy at a strip club gets so worked up all he wants is YOU when he comes home. Its pretty much going to be the best fuck of the week so get it out of your head that "Oh he isn't thinking about me". Shut up. He is home there with YOU...ripping YOUR clothes off. There is a huge difference between sex, fucking, and making love. I've said this to you all a million times before.

So....God is Great...Beer is fucking good....and Women are crazy. ;) Even me.

xoxo