There are keys to every relationship and/or marriage that have to always be balanced to make sure a future is viable. Love doesn't cut anymore kids. Factors of communication is always the primary key. If you can't talk to one another about everything and anything then that leads to trust issues. If you don't trust one another then, then what? Live off of anti-depressants and hope things change?
I talk to my guy friends a lot. I can tell when they are down in the dumps so me, as awesome as I am...haha, will listen to their issues. Most of the time, I am listening to something that their girl should be listening to but they have been put in a position that they can't even trust their partner to even have that conversation so they are having it with me, searching for help.
Guys don't like it when a girl cries. Girls hate it when a man shuts down and walks away. Girls have a tendency to push buttons because they become inpatient when they are seeking resolution to whatever nonsense fight it was today that he isn't ready to talk about and the next thing you know, someone is on the couch or worse didn't come home that night.
My husband shuts down very quickly. He holds a lot in until he is pretty much ready to burst. Me, I burst right away so we are completely opposite. The things that we have managed to do after all these years is to actually learn our mannerisms when we fight and find that right time when we are both ready for resolution. Now that is the key. We don't fight and ignore. We don't fight and walk away forever. We talk it out. Piece by piece to the point of when we are finally on the same page. Even have 14 years, I will learn something new about my husband because I pay attention. Finally he is picking that up on my end to.
One of my guy friends has issues with his girl. She insists that if they have a relationship that there should be no need for porn, strip clubs, or masturbating. I'm not surprised because I know a lot of girls like this. Well anyways, that isn't just the key to it all. She insisted these rules, but then denies him of sex. Now he feels when he sneaks away to take care of himself that he is being bad and ruining his relationship. So what is the problem here? So....because there are always two sides to everything I talk with his girl to find out whats going on. She explained to me her rules. Which are fine for her...whatever, but her reason for not being intimate with her man was because she found a dirty magazine in his bathroom. So she is punishing him. Sounds kinda fucked up to me.
Hahaha...sorry, I just realized that I'm actually playing therapist here. Sorry..anyways so I sat both of them down and made some points clear. I may disagree with the whole masturbating, porn, hell even strip clubs, but that is just me. I made her realize that if you find a man that will live up to your rules then you have a pretty good one. People make mistakes but in this case she was denying him sexual needs before he finally broke down and took care of himself.
Sex is in our nature people. Whether its just sex, a good fucking, or making love or masturbating, we all do it because its what we do. We all have needs. They have to be met or your going to lose one of the most important key factors to HOLD a relationship. For guys it is a great chance for them to cheat. Its not because of their heart its because of that insane amount of blood flow and the lack of intimacy that they need. If there is a problem, don't punish someone that you love. Talk to them. Talk it all out. Don't hold back on anything. You can't be scared to say something to the person you love. If they are upset they will either learn to understand your perspective or they just won't.
So COMMUNICATE!!!!!! Be HONEST!!!! Don't fear your partner. A relationship is a partnership so how are you going to make it work if only one person is making the rules??
Side note though for the girls. As I said up there, I don't have a problem with porn, magazines and strip clubs. How do you think your man learns all his damn moves to begin with?? Don't you want to experience something new and exciting? Plus, a guy at a strip club gets so worked up all he wants is YOU when he comes home. Its pretty much going to be the best fuck of the week so get it out of your head that "Oh he isn't thinking about me". Shut up. He is home there with YOU...ripping YOUR clothes off. There is a huge difference between sex, fucking, and making love. I've said this to you all a million times before.
So....God is Great...Beer is fucking good....and Women are crazy. ;) Even me.
xoxo
I talk to my guy friends a lot. I can tell when they are down in the dumps so me, as awesome as I am...haha, will listen to their issues. Most of the time, I am listening to something that their girl should be listening to but they have been put in a position that they can't even trust their partner to even have that conversation so they are having it with me, searching for help.
Guys don't like it when a girl cries. Girls hate it when a man shuts down and walks away. Girls have a tendency to push buttons because they become inpatient when they are seeking resolution to whatever nonsense fight it was today that he isn't ready to talk about and the next thing you know, someone is on the couch or worse didn't come home that night.
My husband shuts down very quickly. He holds a lot in until he is pretty much ready to burst. Me, I burst right away so we are completely opposite. The things that we have managed to do after all these years is to actually learn our mannerisms when we fight and find that right time when we are both ready for resolution. Now that is the key. We don't fight and ignore. We don't fight and walk away forever. We talk it out. Piece by piece to the point of when we are finally on the same page. Even have 14 years, I will learn something new about my husband because I pay attention. Finally he is picking that up on my end to.
One of my guy friends has issues with his girl. She insists that if they have a relationship that there should be no need for porn, strip clubs, or masturbating. I'm not surprised because I know a lot of girls like this. Well anyways, that isn't just the key to it all. She insisted these rules, but then denies him of sex. Now he feels when he sneaks away to take care of himself that he is being bad and ruining his relationship. So what is the problem here? So....because there are always two sides to everything I talk with his girl to find out whats going on. She explained to me her rules. Which are fine for her...whatever, but her reason for not being intimate with her man was because she found a dirty magazine in his bathroom. So she is punishing him. Sounds kinda fucked up to me.
Hahaha...sorry, I just realized that I'm actually playing therapist here. Sorry..anyways so I sat both of them down and made some points clear. I may disagree with the whole masturbating, porn, hell even strip clubs, but that is just me. I made her realize that if you find a man that will live up to your rules then you have a pretty good one. People make mistakes but in this case she was denying him sexual needs before he finally broke down and took care of himself.
Sex is in our nature people. Whether its just sex, a good fucking, or making love or masturbating, we all do it because its what we do. We all have needs. They have to be met or your going to lose one of the most important key factors to HOLD a relationship. For guys it is a great chance for them to cheat. Its not because of their heart its because of that insane amount of blood flow and the lack of intimacy that they need. If there is a problem, don't punish someone that you love. Talk to them. Talk it all out. Don't hold back on anything. You can't be scared to say something to the person you love. If they are upset they will either learn to understand your perspective or they just won't.
So COMMUNICATE!!!!!! Be HONEST!!!! Don't fear your partner. A relationship is a partnership so how are you going to make it work if only one person is making the rules??
Side note though for the girls. As I said up there, I don't have a problem with porn, magazines and strip clubs. How do you think your man learns all his damn moves to begin with?? Don't you want to experience something new and exciting? Plus, a guy at a strip club gets so worked up all he wants is YOU when he comes home. Its pretty much going to be the best fuck of the week so get it out of your head that "Oh he isn't thinking about me". Shut up. He is home there with YOU...ripping YOUR clothes off. There is a huge difference between sex, fucking, and making love. I've said this to you all a million times before.
So....God is Great...Beer is fucking good....and Women are crazy. ;) Even me.
xoxo
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